Wednesday, 26 February 2014

How to Talk puberty with adolescencent?

Heylos to all smart mommas, I am sure you all must be gearing up for celebrating Women's Day in the coming week i.e 8th March. Yes we all as smart momz have scheduled something really special to celebrate womanhood. Keep a close watch on this space, I will share updates in my next post shortly.

As always am glad to publish this guest post by Archie on a very sensitive yet informative article on how to talk about puberty with our growing kids. She shares her views on how to talk about puberty and adolescence with our little angels.

My friend and the guest blogger for Smart Momz At Home, Archana N Swamy share her views and opinion on the same. She has brought an insight on how to communicate about puberty to growing kids (Adolescence) and how to help them to cope with their hormonal changes. Though my daughter is just 19 months old but sensitive issues like how will I talk about sex education with her, how will I keep her safe from child sexual abuse and even how will make her comfortable during her puberty days, such questions keep pondering in my mind.

So here is the write up, please read through, and feel free to share your feedback, views and opinions for the same.

All mothers, as a common factor in times discuss about bringing up their respective kids, their food, behavior, schooling, future, savings for them etc. These are all general topics of discussion encompass girls as well as boys. But as time moves ahead and toddlers step into 10 or 11 years, one may notice that there is a fine visible distinction in bringing up boys and girls. Needless to say, girls are more sensitive by nature than boys, especially one or two years before in gaining puberty. This is the point of discussion in this guest post written by Archana N Swamy.

This new year provoked me to think about girls gaining their puberty and the other consequences which revolves around it, as my daughter will be 11 this Feb. What I have learned from my mother is that how to cooperate with the roller coaster ride that a little girl’s mind would take before this critical movement and how I need to extend my special attention to her.

Most of the times the way family hides and friends discuss suspiciously about periods, it turns scary thing for some girls. So in this case, we better to have a fair and friendly discussion with daughters and educate them about monthly periods. A mother has to take call and clarify every doubt arising in her little girls mind. As a responsible mother, you must ensure that you have a meaningful and effective communication on the same. While talking to her about puberty, you will make your daughter feel comfortable and help her to understand herself in a better way. By doing this you will be able to make her understand that it is normal to get periods every month. And also it is equally important that whenever they are having their periods, you must take your girl into confidence and assure her that you are always there to assist her if needed. Two things involved here, one understands about Menstrual Cycle (MC), and second that she will learn extending assistance at the time of need.

Once she understand every why, what, how of MC you can go ahead and explain the topic in detail. Try not to give too many information at one go. Make it a casual talk with meaningful content. What I told my daughter Anagha, every girl has to gain puberty in this world and its for the good sake. I also explained her in detail everything about the menstrual about all ‘5Ws’ and one ‘H’ of the MC.

Educating daughters is one phase, which may not be that difficult, perhaps the second phase is where the real problem exists. For me its not only enough to have fat discussions about Menstrual Cycles(MC), but also involves mother’s and family member’s relationship with these growing dolls, understand their mood swings, bestow support and also educate them in handling the situation without getting panic. At this juncture because of hormonal changes most of the girls get irritations, frustrations, anger for silly reasons, disagreements etc. They go aggressive and senior citizens at home may feel ‘such a small tiny girl who has not seen the world is raiding on me’.

I am undergoing with the same crunch. There is a clear cut sign of gap not only with grand parents but exclusively with her father as well. And for which I decided to send her for a 5 days trip with her father. I did that because I wanted them to have a strong bonding as Father-Daughter relationship. And yes I do believe that in these five days she got some level of synchronization with her father, which can never happen in my presence.

Girls even could get irritated in gatherings, family functions where they don't allow you to have talk or spend time of your own. Yes you will notice that lot of your friends and family members will dump thier uncalled tips and suggestions on how to tackle your dughter's ever growing aggression and mood swings. It's hard to believe but my sister in laws who are totally possessive about my daughter told me you avoid bringing her to parties. But now she is no more toddler, but a adolescent who will be teenager soon. And so I do respect the feelings and emotional turmoil my daughter is going through, and I do allow her to take decisions for herself and secure her independence and individuality.

Last but not least, be cautious about girl’s eating habits, junk and chats anyways not at all advisable . Sweets, ice-creams and other heavy foods and consuming too much of deep fried items though prepared at home, better to avoid. Junk food like pokodas, pizza and burgers should never be consumed on regular basis. I am not asking to stop eating at all, but you can reduce the frequency at least after reading this piece of writing.

First of all junk, fast food and deep fried items may active hormones as earliest and girls gain puberty at very early age like 10 and 11. Within in no time girls become obese and looks heavy. Try to include lots of fruits, green vegetables and dry fruits in her regular diet. Explain them why no too much of junk and chats, create some interest in their eating.

I am glad, as now a days schools are against bringing junk in lunch box. For better tips you can go through smart moms' Kitchen Counter, we have discuss lots of healthy cooking procedures and most of the times with reason to eat that particular diet.

Mothers of toddlers can start from today, bring healthy eating habits like more of fruits and vegetables, so that you need not to struggle after 4 to 5 years down the line. I hope this article may help to the momz who are clueless when it comes to speak about puberty to their little one.

I hope this article might help you understand your child better during their transitional days of adolescence. Please do share your feedback, I be more than glad to know your views and ideas on the same.

-Take Care
Archie @Moms' Me Space

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Tuesday, 18 February 2014

Diapering right: Get your hands Dirty!

Heylos to all smart moms, am sure you all must be taking utmost care of your child while diapering them. For me diapering my little one in right manner has been always been the top priority.

We have to make lot many small yet important decisions like when to start solids, breastfeed vs bottlefeed and what not. And when it comes to opt for a right diaper for little one, we make our individual choice as per our personal routine adn baby needs. 

Once you successfully select for what kind of diapering (cloth vs disposables) you want to opt for, it becomes obvious to get your hands dirty.
So here is my latest guest blog for is all about how to clean cloth diaper and dispose the disposables in an hygienically manner. With the right pointers and guidance, I have made it this entire poop cleaning session mess free and also pleasant. 

By following right manner to flush the poop and dispose the disposable, it will make your diaper cleaning and disposing session simpler and hassle free.

So be it a cloth diaper or disposables, as a responsible parent / caretaker, the poop has to be disposed in right manner and cleaned it hygienically to ensure the pleasant and healthy environment for your little one and other family members too.

So here is my take on how to clean the cloth diaper and how to dispose the disposables. Please read through and let me know your tips too. I would love to share it on my next blog.

posted from Bloggeroid

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Thursday, 13 February 2014

My kitchen counter>> Valentines' treats

Heylos to all smart mumz. Am very sure that you all must have planned something special for your better half for Valentines Day. But why not make it more special for our kids whom we love the most, isn't it? So lets make a healthy valentines' treat for your toddler and grown up kids too.

When I make these in the kitchen (As per recipe suggested by CHOCOLATIER’D ACADEMY), it is way too tempting to walk away without grabbing a handful of them. Fresh popcorn and crunchy nuts in caramel drizzled with chocolate! This one is sure to grab your attention..perfect snack for the kids! And trust me it approved by momz as it has granulated/brown sugar and liquid glucose. So here is the secret recipe for loved ones on Valentines Day.

  • 84g granulated sugar /brown sugar                     
  • 2tbsp water
  • 21g liquid glucose
  • 15g butter
  • 50g peanuts
  • 5 cups popped popcorn
  • 200g dark chocolate
  • A pinch of salt
Method: In a heavy bottomed pan, mix water, sugar, liquid glucose, butter, peanuts and cook over medium high flame until the mixture begins to thicken and reaches amber color. 
Remove from heat and add salt , mix well and add popcorn and mix quickly and pour immediately on a tray lined with parchment paper. Let the popcorn cool and decorate with melted dark chocolate. Tada your chocolatey Caramel Popcorn is ready! A must have snacks on Valentines' Day for your lil love. It yummy, tasty and healthy too.
Spread the sweetness with flawless recipes on this valentines' Day!
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Monday, 10 February 2014

Preview>>Watch Fitness Video

Heylos to all my fitness freak smart moms. I've been getting the questions about what this meet is all about. This meet is exclusively about the health and lifestyle do's and Don'ts. 

Being mom is a very responsible job , and at the same time we end up overlooking our own health and lifestyle concerns. This meet will give you insight on how you can live a healthy life with with right food and lifestyle habits.

So here is the preview video on the health talk we will have on 16th Feb 2014. Please watch it and get the insight of the fitness momz meet.

As a mom we make sure that we pact nutritive and healthy meals for our kids' tiffin, and also see that all meals in a day for family is freshly prepare and served on time. So what makes us to overlook our own health by skipping meals and other in-between snacks for a day. It is okay, to have imperfections in house sometime, and relax and enjoy our meals peacefully. 

We as a 'mother' should focus more on our health as we are the fulcrum of the family. And as it's always said that 'Healthy mother raises, healthy family'. Whoever have said this quote, it's quite apt and as a responsible mother oust must follow it religiously. 

Yes as a mom we are sweet yet we are smart too, and now it's high time that we become strong momz with right eating and lifestyle habit. So lets all catch up for 'Free Fitness Talk', and re-live our healthy days and create a happy and healthy family. For further details click here.

Nidhi @Moms' Space

Tuesday, 4 February 2014

What's there in your Diaper Kit?

Heylos to all smart mommies, hope you all had terrific weekend. This time I was out for shopping with my little one and enjoyed every bit of it.

Yes my laptop has broken down, so i was unable to blog for sometime, and yes thanks to Bloggeroid for helping me to publish this post with no hassles at all. So here is my post on diapering dilemma for 

It's all about top six most important must-have products for creating a perfect Diaper kit. it also clarifies the difference between diaper kit and diaper bag. 

Like all mothers, I too was always getting annoyed with stiff neck, severe shoulder pain and never ending back ache problem. Thanks to the huge diaper bag we carry all the time, and every where we go with our little one. 

So when you create a diaper kit , it makes your life as mom bit more easier and mess free diaper changing sessions when you are on the go. And of course you can always just carry the diaper kit for small trips like a visit to a neighbours' house, nearby park or even for grocery shopping with your little one tagging along.

So be a smart mom and carry a diaper kit along wherever you go. Wish you all momz out there to travel smart with mess-free diapering!!!

posted from Bloggeroid

Monday, 3 February 2014

Shopoholic in training!?

Heylos to all smart momz, this weekend we went for shopping for my hubby and my lo. And guess what the little princess was all set in for a shopping spree. You won't be believe she was checking out everything in kids sections, be it accessories, pants, skirts, frocks or even shoes. She wanted to buy everything, and started dumping it in the shopping basket, and also she was pulling me towards billing counter.

My eyes just popped out when I saw her removing her old sandals, started checking put shoes and refuse to wear her own sandals. So that I end up buying new one for her ;-) such smart kid and shopoholic lady in training. Though at the end I only bought the things which were required and considered her one of the choice too. I couldn't believe that she was shopping so chick, so unlike me, I was a real tomboy in my childhood days.

So all you smart mommies of you have baby girl, then I must say you've got your shopping partner. So make best of it, plan a girls day out, get the shopping rolling!

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