Sunday, 15 June 2014

How to overcome depression post motherhood?

After being a mother, a lot many changes come in our life, in both ways physically as well as emotionally. For each mom this depression phase comes in different forms and stages of motherhood. Like a new mother may suffer from post-natal depression, some moms-to-be faces pre-natal depression and moreover some mom does experience 'Depression' a much later when their kids start going to play-school or enters teenage. This time our new Guest Blogger on the board 'Asha Kudari' mother of two grown up kids Shreyas (14yrs) and Tanvi (10yrs). 
Asha with her kids Tanvi and Shreyas

In our recent Watsapp chat group there was a huge discussion on a thread of depression, so our real 'Rockstar Mom' - Asha Kudari thought of sharing her secret tips for overcoming depression in motherhood. I would also like to add that I really admire Asha as a new age modern mom with lots of sensibility and understanding.  


During our mom and kids  weekend trip we all moms admire the way she have raised her kids, the ways she takes care of health and well-being (without overlooking her home responsibility). I must admit that Asha is the 'Smart Mom At Home'. Kudos to her energy and spirit. So please read the below written article by her on tips an tricks for mothers to overcome 'Depression' and make the journey of motherhood more enjoyable.


'How to overcome Depression?' - By Asha Kudari

The word “Depression” is so familiar to all of us. It is used so casually in our daily lives. But this casual word is responsible for lots of bigger problems. A depressed mother cannot raise a healthy child. Let’s not ignore depression but let’s recognize it, at its early stage and help ourselves to overcome it. Yes, "it’s only me who can help myself, nobody else can", is the first responsibility that we have to take on ourselves, and then things happen for good. Feel the power within yourself and strength will come.

Quoting from the movie Krishh, "Krishh ek soch hai", yes superpower is just a belief or faith. If you believe enough that you have it within you, then you have it. So, what are the different possible ways to fight depression? Just some simple techniques are sufficient. It is a myth that only spa can rejuvenate. Not that I am against spa but if moms cannot afford spa, they lose nothing.

Food, Rest and Sleep:

  1. Make it a point to eat nutritious food on time no matter what.
  2. Rest well. Let the clothes, books and toys lie around the house. Do not sort them until u have rested well. Even if the maid does not turn up, just relax and empathize with her, thinking she must have been caught in a much bigger problem. Just do whatever you can do without feeling tired & bogged down.
  3. Good sleep rejuvenates your body, mind & soul. So, sleep well. For mothers of little babies, sleep when baby sleeps.


Exercise and Meditation:


  1. Do any form of exercise you like for at least 45minutes in a day. Walking, jogging, gym, swimming, badminton, aerobics, yoga anything will do. It will release good hormones and keeps you away from getting depressed. Make exercise a part of everyday life. If you are doing all household chores like washing, cleaning, dusting then it’s a good exercise too.
  2. Meditating every day for at least 10 minutes will bring in calmness to the mind. Just close your eyes and sit in a quiet place and breathe slowly. Allow thoughts to come in and observe the thoughts. Do not judge the thoughts. Over a period of time you will learn what meditation can do to you. Have faith and practice.
  3. You can play and jump with your kids. There can be no better exercise than this.


Hobby:

  1. Indulge in something you love. It can be reading, music, movies, writing, cooking, and travelling. Try to do it whenever you get spare time. 
  2. Watch your favorite show on TV. Laugh and be silly.


Get Inspired:

  1. There are many heroes around us. Read about them, get to know about them and consider someone your role model. 
  2. In trying times, just close your eyes and imagine what your role model would have done if they were in your position.


Ignore Negativities:
  1. Do not let anyone steal your smile.
  2. Turn a deaf ear to comparisons, unwanted advises.
  3. Be confident that you are unique and have your own strengths. Beauty lies in diversity. 


Opposites attract
Just imagine how you will feel if after getting up in the morning you see that everyone is like you. Life will be too boring if all are same.

Get help:

  1. Talk to people you trust and let go of negativeness. Accept their help and feel grateful. You too can help someone in need and feel happy about it. Life is all about give & take. Above all, love yourself. You are the most precious person to your child. So it’s a commitment that you do for your children that you will stay healthy & happy no matter what problems life throws at you.
  2. Meeting a counselor or psychiatrist is considered horrible in our society. But, this attitude is wrong. Getting professional medical help if needed is the best thing to do. When we can go to doctors to treat our body why not for the mind? Do not hesitate to visit a good professional if you feel you need help.
I hope these time tested tips and tricks from Asha would help you all smart moms who are undergoing Depression due to motherhood.



-XOXO

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