Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Guest Blog: The FUN of Mommi-fication

Heylos to all, am more than glad to introduce Debolina Coomar as a new  guest blogger on the block. We share lot many things in common like we both are mother blogger, freelance writer with the past career in Corporate Communication. But unlike me she is more more bubbly and finds humour in every phase of life.When I spoke to her for the first time I was simply in awe of her energy, humour and happy-go-lucky attitude. She is the new mom tagging 8 months old baby girl with lots and lots of positivity and laughter in her life. Thanks to social media that I got connected with her.

Her guest blog is very much like her humorous yet witty. I enjoyed reading her writing which actually gave me break from the daily mundane. Trust me, while reading her article I was dwelling in different world. Am sure my readers would love her writing, just like me :-)

Debolina, a sincere thanks for your contribution, and looking forward for more creative articles on motherhood from your end ;-)

The FUN of Mommi-fication- By Debolina Coomar

Yes you heard it right. I am going to talk about mommi-fication. Though the word does not exist in thesaurus, I believe it is quite an important one to be included. I am sure after my justified revelation, they will!

The resemblance to 'mummification' is both in terms of spelling and a bit in meaning. Let me explain why. Mummification is an ancient Egyptian art of preserving the body after death with all the favourite things by one’s side. This might be a crude way to put it but this is how it goes. And 'mommification' is the most ancient world art of not preserving the body after child birth and forgetting all about one's favourite things; this is how I put it. It was not to be taken in a negative sense at all. This piece is just to remind you mommies of theat fact that you too need to take care of your body and yourself post pregnancy. Do not make yourself look like zombies as they do after 'mummification'. 

Let's make the process of 'mommification' a beautiful one to preserve our mind and soul. The feeling of being a 'mother' is one of the most enthralling experience in a women's life, no doubts to it. But many mothers starts getting agitated with facts like joint pains, sagging bellies, sleepless nights, baby stress and many such issues after their pregnancy. It is better not to get tensed about what pregnancy did to your body, rather enjoy what it did to your mind. You can take it like now you have a new companion to tag along. Say you are dying for a DBC, who better to give you company than your beloved child but yes, you have to wait a while for this.

So you see it is time to have some FUN being a mother. Let’s see what all FUN you can have being a mommy.

I do not have any facts or figures to display nor am I going to tell you which cereal is good for your child or where to get a fancy dress for your kid or tips to follow when your child is not going to sleep. I am here to talk about YOU. And if you also wish to find YOU, then read along. You will find a new FUN in your motherhood.

Face all realities with elation: Motherhood brings in a mixed gamut of feeling and responsibilities. Some make you happy while others leave you in desperation but alas you cannot ignore any. And if you do not do a good job at any of them, you are judged. So mommies, face anything and everything that comes along with a renewed zeal every time. Being able to spend sleepless nights probably will make you a better party animal, being able to soothe your baby makes you a patient person and a good negotiator, being able to feed your baby within a stipulated time makes you a better time manager (you can improve every time), being able to make an art or craft for your child makes you a creative guru or finding the perfect fancy dress will make you a great explorer. And the list goes on; everything you do makes you a better person. 

Unleash all your energy:
Unleash all your energy in raising your kid, do whatever he/she does, play with them, run with them, scribble on the walls, jump on the bed and everything you did or wanted to do as a kid. You can probably cry with them too to let your emotions out. Kids bring out a whole new emotion self of yours. Cherish it till you can. The more you energise running, playing, jumping with your child, the more calories you burn, trust me. In case, no calories left to burn, just do it for fun. Go out for shopping, click loads of pictures, take a joy ride, watch a movie, have a pyjama party, arrange a fancy dress at home, take a walk to the park, and ride on the swing and almost everything. 

Never stop loving yourself: Few days back, I was watching a flick called Mom’s Night Out, where an exasperated mother of three went out on a night out leaving the kids with their father and how the course of events only revolved around the kids and it ended in a disaster. But one thing the female protagonist and of course myself picked up from the story is that we mothers need to love ourselves. 

Pamper ourselves with a spa or massage every week probably, get ourselves a funky new top or high heels almost every month almost or read a book every week, say. Actually, whatever we choose to do for ourselves, we have to go ahead and do it. Join a local community club, meet friends over the weekend for dinner, join a ladies’ Whatsapp group, make new friends, and plan a meet out and so on. You will be glad to find many more like you.

Take up an old hobby; make something for your child; take their help in making that; make them learn a new song; write few lines on anything even if you are not much of a writer; you can just do wonders. If you are in business, do not ‘just’ advertise online; make it interesting with creative pamphlets or even a tagline. If you are not, just do whatever you feel like. Just love yourself as much as you can and others will follow.

I guess too much of advice but trust me friends, there is no success formula to be a good mother or a wife - you just have to play by the rule and sometimes break them too. And when you are done with all this, you deserve a peaceful sleep, handover your child to your hubby for a night and off you go. And before that just think of all the FUN you are going to have tomorrow – all the realities you might face, how to unleash your energy and a new way to love yourself.

Your kids and your husband will love you for the cool person you are. And once you learn to have fun in mommi-fication, you will surely be called the “Mommy Returns” :-) 


About Debolina: She is a firm believer of 'live & let live', she like to enjoy the tidbits of life as it comes by. As a person who enjoys reading and interacting with people, and also exciting to write about emotions, lifestyle, current affairs and pretty much everything that affects a common man's life. On career front, she is an ex-HR and Corp. Comm. person and currently mother to a lovely 8 month old daughter and a freelancer creative writer. She strive to ignite the power of thought with a whole new perspective and shares her favourite quote (Walt Disney): "If you can dream it, you can do it."
Read her blog here.

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